You can choose your allies!

 Simply put that an Ally is someone who has got your back. Do you have anyone like that in your corner right now? 

In today's world where maintaining a high profile social image is more important that actual connection with people, it is very difficult to truly identify who has got your back for real. The first event of our life when we are born is a naming ceremony which automatically gives us an identity. We gain a family-that we did not choose. Even though we don't get to choose our family we can choose our friends. As much as family gives us an identity, friendships will also define us. Sometimes, when faced with challenges we first think about who we know that can help us. If you cannot find anyone in your corner to see you through a difficult time then you need to rethink your associations. 

Being there surpasses financial obligations. It involves emotional and mental availability. It is not everything that money can fix, sometimes rendering the best counsel can go a long way. If your friend is not known to give you the right counsel when you need it then you don't have an ally in that friend. Do you feel the need to disappear when you are having a rough time because nobody around you understands? Somebody has to understand you. If you cannot find that one person then you should reevaluate your associations. Also being available for someone you care about is never a burden, you just show up because you know you need to. 

Yes...different people play different roles in our lives. While this is true, don't get distracted creating a network of people for different roles in your life and forget keeping the 'real' ones close enough too. I understand the need to be popular on social media today, I get the desire to be an influencer/ambassador, I understand you have to grow your followers, I know you need more likes, and you will 'drag' anybody to trend. While you are at this, make sure you also find time to build the right support system-your allies. They are the ones that will protect you. What could go wrong you ask, so many things could go wrong. Life is dynamic, we don't have any life manual so anything could really go wrong. You will need your allies. They will make sure that no matter what goes wrong, everything will be alright!

It is really important that you have people who love and care about you in your corner. ignore the urge to stay woke and choose wisely. 

Know them, love them!